I propose that the #1 misconception about attitude is that it’s out of our control.
How many people do you know who have a bad attitude, yet deny it until they’re blue in the face? You’ve run into a bad attitude before. You can smell it a mile away on someone. The look on their face, the tone in their voice, the body language of a complete bitch. You wanna just smack them upside the head and say, “come ON, man, just smile or relax or take a breather!” How do they respond?
“I can’t help it!”
“Leave me alone!”
“YOU have the attitude, not me!”
^^^ Just to name a few. It kills me. Every time it kills me. WHY? Because I used to be that person.
Thankfully, I have realized in the last few years that my attitude is completely in my control and I cannot blame someone else for it. Attitude is a CHOICE. Period. End of story. If you want to change your attitude you have to change the way you talk to yourself.
So I guess if you wanted to blame someone for your bad attitude, you could, in fact, blame yourself. Because you’re the one being a complete Negative Nancy inside your own head with your own thoughts. The trouble with that is nobody hears those thoughts except you. So when you turn around and speak, or enter a room, or otherwise engage in social interaction, your attitude is a direct reflection in those situations of your self-talk. Of what you’re telling yourself in your mind.
“This party sucks, I wanna leave.”
“I don’t know why I bother with even asking these idiots for help with this project.”
Well, no wonder you have a bad attitude!!! And people find you offensive or uninteresting or a pain to be around! I wouldn’t want to be around someone like that either!
If we can only remain positive and uplifting in our minds, then we will see a shift in our attitude towards the world, towards others. Which in turn, will make our environments more positive and richer and full of more interesting people and places and things. They go hand in hand. I really wish I had realized this before the age of 34.
So the next time you catch yourself being negative inside your own head, turn those words around and speak positively to yourself. You may see your day turns around instantly.