As a motivator on social media and amongst my friends, I usually choose to be outwardly positive on purpose. I don’t like reading whiny, negative posts on Facebook when I’m scrolling my newsfeed so I certainly don’t want to be “that person” to my followers. Even if I’m having a rough day or a tough week, I will continue to put the positivity out there into the universe.
Sometimes though, we all need a little pick me up. I am guilty of taking care of others before taking care of myself, even if that’s what I am consistently teaching my challengers. I’m always saying you’ve got to prioritize YOU, your workouts & nutrition because it’s your health. Your LIFE. So when I’m feeling down, it is extremely hard for me to 1) admit it, and 2) ask for help.
Ironic, isn’t it? It’s a lovely personality flaw I’ve got.
I have to work hard to stay positive. Everything I’ve learned, researched, and read says that the key to a positive life starts between your ears. You must think positive, to speak positive, to be positive. And just like karma, if you put positive vibes out into the universe, then positive vibes will return your way. It’s not just a bunch of nonsense, trust me. Check out Jen Sincero’s You Are A Badass or Gabrielle Bernstein’s May Cause Miracles. These are great reads for helping to rewire your thinking.
But we all have our moments, right? We all have days that get to us. When you happen to be an anxious person and susceptible to depressive episodes, those days can be worse. It’s an uphill battle to stay upbeat. You just want to lay in bed and do nothing. Watch mindless TV. Sleep. Think. It’s that damn thinking that gets us every time. Too much thinking for anxiety-ridden peeps is like a raging storm brewing in West Texas. The kind of storm that creeps up on you out of nowhere. You’re living in sunny skies and heat until you look over yonder and billowing dark gray clouds are forming fast, the wind picks up, and next thing you know you’re inside watching it pour rain and listening to thunder booming overhead.
When you feel like you have those days where all your efforts to think & be positive aren’t working, I’m giving you permission to just be down. YUP. That’s right. The motivating fitness guru is saying it is OK to feel sad. Feel it, be it, think it and get it out of your system. If a workout didn’t help, if reading a positive growth book didn’t help, if watching adorable kitten videos on YouTube didn’t help turn that frown upside down, then just let yourself BE.
It doesn’t make you less of a person. It doesn’t make you less positive. It doesn’t make you less motivating or inspiring. It makes you more human.
The next day, or maybe the next, all those steps to being more positive will work. You’ll feel better. You’ll feel happier. You may even feel more whole.